This month, I asked the faculty from The Constellations Intensive:
What gem can you offer us about Constellation facilitation?
Ed Lynch: PRESENCE
“One of the little gems that I have found in doing Constellation work is the importance of the embrace or hug. It is usually done towards the end of the constellation when there is some healing or reconciliation movement occurring. On some occasions, I have witnessed another dynamic playing out on the personal conscience level. With the embrace, I’ve seen on a deeper level the healing of the interrupted reaching out movement. This is a double healing in that there is an embrace of reconciliation and on a deeper level the embrace of the child with the parent, or parent figure. I’ve seen this occur in the slight regression that allows for the surprise of feeling in the client.”
Francesca Mason Boring: TRUST
“The single word which I think resonates strongly in a good facilitation, and which has perhaps the greatest impact on my facilitation is: “trust”.
Trusting the capacity and resilience as well as the fragility of those who are ready to look at their family system, trusting the function of paradox within family systems: that war criminals can be loving fathers and that their children can love them deeply- to somehow trust that there is a functional wisdom in those apparent conflicts supports stamina in a facilitator. To trust the gifts of our ancestors as well as our own gifts and to equally trust our limitations is crucial. I continue to be amazed at the changes folks describe in their lives when they find peace through family constellation; I trust the presence of that possibility in every family constellation.”
Dan Booth Cohen: NERVE
Suzi Tucker: CONFLUENCE
Bill Mannle: PATIENCE
“I have learned to go slow, to take my time, and to start small; that every family/generational issue does not need to be addressed in a single constellation; to practice seeing with no intent to heal; and speak what I see.”
Emily Blefeld Volden: PERCEPTION
And here’s mine – Alison Fornés: NOT-KNOWING